The Marriage Proposal

Many of you may know now that I’ve recently popped the question. The answer was “yes.”

My close friends whom know me the best, know that this is the happiest time in my life, but I challenge them to understand, it’s not merely about happiness at this time. It’s about happiness for a lifetime. I know that what I feel right now is right and I will be happy forever.

Simply put, I love her and I want to be with her. Always.

With focus on marriage, however, I have to reflect on those that cannot marry and the social injustice of such fact. It has and always will be a civil rights issue that gays are not allowed to marry. Hopefully by the time Kelly and I wed, there will be tolerance for marriage equality.

I’ve always hated the institution of marriage in the first place, for its unfairness, its hypocrisies in religion. As I grow older, I see the lighter side of the ceremonies that must occur because people need them to occur. As we need to grieve for loved ones who pass on, we need a ceremony for something as symbolic as putting a ring on another person’s finger.

If we are to wed in a world where equality isn’t afforded to all, then I will still feel that it gives me little meaning because I know that I love Kelly and she loves me. I don’t need a piece of paper or a ceremony to tell me that, as I know many of my friends may feel the same way, but to those that cannot marry, it’s like a slap in the face. And I will feel guilty that I can do this and some others cannot.

Kelly is my life. I love her. I don’t write notes like this often, but here it is today: an admission of love and guilt. I cannot wait to marry her because I know it’s something she’s really looking forward to. I just hope the institution and laws that allow me to marry will one day encompass all of us.

I love you all,

Eddie